Most of us know that one smart, strong, confident and eloquent girlfriend or relative who is dating or married to someone not even half her match. We all notice how the man is taking her for granted and constantly wonder why she would stoop that low for a man.
So here's my short analogy of it: A woman can not just be whatever the hell she wants to be, she must also be everything that society expects of her. We are told directly or indirectly at an early age that men give us value, that the epitome of being a woman is finding a husband and starting a family together. And for every man who touches you, he takes away a bit of your worth.
Therefore the woman grows up with a million rules to go by. She can not be assertive without fear of being bossy, she can not be confident without fear of being labelled stuck up, she can't have high standards without fear of being demanding, she can not experiment without fear of being labelled a slut, she can not be suspicious without fear of being called "crazy", heck she can not even be alone without people finding reasons why she hasn't found the man.
The pressure to be the perfect woman coupled with the idea that another man may not want to be with her because she gave every bit of her value to another man creates an environment where even a strong woman may become insecure and give endless chances to the wrong man. And once a man puts a crack on her self esteem, she constantly finds herself trying to prove to him that she is worth it. It's not that she doesn't know her own worth, she just feels that she has to convince him of her worth too. Once she's reached that stage, it's easy for her to be tricked into thinking that its better to give one unworthy man 100 chances than date 100 men until she finds the one. Heard of that phrase "No man is perfect...?" Yes, that's it!
So here's my short analogy of it: A woman can not just be whatever the hell she wants to be, she must also be everything that society expects of her. We are told directly or indirectly at an early age that men give us value, that the epitome of being a woman is finding a husband and starting a family together. And for every man who touches you, he takes away a bit of your worth.
Therefore the woman grows up with a million rules to go by. She can not be assertive without fear of being bossy, she can not be confident without fear of being labelled stuck up, she can't have high standards without fear of being demanding, she can not experiment without fear of being labelled a slut, she can not be suspicious without fear of being called "crazy", heck she can not even be alone without people finding reasons why she hasn't found the man.
The pressure to be the perfect woman coupled with the idea that another man may not want to be with her because she gave every bit of her value to another man creates an environment where even a strong woman may become insecure and give endless chances to the wrong man. And once a man puts a crack on her self esteem, she constantly finds herself trying to prove to him that she is worth it. It's not that she doesn't know her own worth, she just feels that she has to convince him of her worth too. Once she's reached that stage, it's easy for her to be tricked into thinking that its better to give one unworthy man 100 chances than date 100 men until she finds the one. Heard of that phrase "No man is perfect...?" Yes, that's it!
Truth be told!!
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